feat: deploy-to-target supports .253 + mesh/federation/VPN updates

- Add deploy_secondary() function for deploying to multiple LAN nodes
- --both now deploys to .198 and .253 (previously .198 only)
- Fleet deploy updated for 3 LAN nodes
- Mesh DM fixes: protocol frame format, DM-via-channel routing
- Federation pending requests, discover modal
- VPN status UI improvements
- Image versions and container specs updates

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 (1M context) <noreply@anthropic.com>

neode-ui/src/views/appSession/appSessionConfig.ts

@@ -43,7 +43,7 @@ export const APP_PORTS: Record<string, number> = {
   'routstr':       8200,
   'indeedhub':     7778,
   'botfights':     9100,
-  'gitea':         3001,
+  'gitea':         3000,
   'dwn':           3100,
   'endurain':      8080,
 }